Embrace Babywearing: A Plus Size Mother’s Story
We recently had the honor of working with Jen McLellan, from PlusSizeBirth.com as she reviewed our Coast Foxgloves Toddler Carrier. During our communication with Jen, we came across this amazing story of SueAnne’s plus size babywearing journey. Jen and SueAnne were gracious enough to let us share it with our Tula Community!
SueAnne you shared with me that this cutie, your 3rd child, is the first you’ve ever worn. What stopped you from babywearing with your first two?
I have 2 girls, and my 3rd is a boy. Honestly I was scared and too self-conscious of my body with my first 2. I was scared that nothing would fit me. I was scared and nervous about what people would think about me, the “fat” girl babywearing. As a large woman I am very self-conscious as it is. So I let my fear of other people’s opinions get in the way. I did wear my 2nd daughter in a sleepy wrap a few times, but only while home, never out and about.
How did I find the perfect carrier for my body? I researched A LOT. I knew I wanted to babywear with him and that is would be a big investment for me. I joined every online group and asked a ton of questions. I pretty much researched my entire pregnancy. After a lot of consideration I chose to take the plunge and ordered a Tula. I couldn’t be happier with the carrier I chose.
You said that babywearing has been the best thing you’ve ever done. Can you share a little about that?
Baby wearing has been the best thing I have chosen to do because it allows me to bond with my son, in a way I wouldn’t be able to without it. My goal was to breastfeed and I know what an amazing bond you create that way. However, I was diagnosed with IGT (insufficient glandular tissue) and even though we pushed through for 4 months with breastfeeding and supplementing, my heart was broken.
Babywearing him has given me so much comfort and joy. Our Tula is both his and my own happy place. He will be one year old in 2 weeks and I started wearing him (in the Tula) at 2 weeks old. So we’re coming up on our 1 year babywearing anniversary! He will beg for the Tula, and usually within 10 minutes of being in it, he’s out cold in a deep sleep! I seriously wear him every single day.
My advice for fellow plus size moms or soon to be moms is to do your research! Read every blog you can about plus size babywearing, join Facebook groups, try to see if you have a local store that sells the one you’re interested in so you can try them on before you buy them. Also ASK questions, don’t be afraid! Last but not least, EMBRACE babywearing! EMBRACE your baby! EMBRACE yourself! Don’t let your fear stop you from doing this for yourself and for your child. The truth is people will talk, the majority of comments I have gotten are positive, but there have been a few rude ones. I let the rude one roll off my back, because all I have to do is look down at my smiley baby and know that I am doing what is best for us, and that is all that matter.
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